Traditional societies acknowledge this.....

I worked as a trainee DTP operator for sometime in a small magazine house. My immediate superior had taken a liking for me and used to protect me like a mentor. He taught me several tricks of the trade, and generally cared for me a lot. I used to nevertheless have long arguments with him (intellectual arguments) about various social/ political issues, as he had some strong opinions and it was addictive to discuss with him. We once discussed HIV/AIDS and in that context I supported the idea of giving freedom to men to have sex with men. There was one more guy present in the room.

Upon this my superior tried to counter me........ but what he said is really interesting (especially in a world which today aggressively propagates something totally opposite) and I have often heard this especially from the older generation. He said, "if you were to allow men to have sex with men, then all men will start doing this (and he rubbed his hands on the other guy sitting next to him) with each other, and no one will care to go to women.".

It was really amazing and refreshing when I think about it now, because today's heterosexualised people don't acknowledge the truth of universal male sexuality for other men like this. But he grew up in a non-heterosexualised and hence much less manipulated world --- and knew what the situation around male-male sexuality exactly was, and also what the real issue involved here was. He did not flinch to acknowledge that the real motive to prevent men from hooking up with men is to force them to hook with women. At one time, not too long ago --- that is what people widely believed. And you know what, they were damn right.

Now its another matter that he felt that it was important and valid to force men to hook up with women, even though he would only support man-woman sex within marriage. Traditional societies don't have any false qualms of being open, free or fair, unlike hypocrite heterosexual societies.

Purusharth, Delhi